This is me, enjoying the last year of my 20s and drinking a cocktail out of a fake coconut because why not?

So tomorrow I turn 30 & leave my 20s behind. It feels like this is the right time to evaluate my 20s and what I’ve learned. Here are 20 things that I have learned in my 20s:

1. A drama free life is a wonderful thing. There is soooo much unnecessary drama in your early 20s. 

2. You don’t have to and shouldn’t pretend your life is perfect all the time. It’s okay to tell the people close to you about the bad stuff as well as the good.

3. Relationships (of all kinds – friends, boyfriends, family members) are so important. They also take work. It needs to include equal effort (maybe at different times) and making time for each other. Oh and quality > quantity. 

4. It’s okay to mess up. That’s pretty much what your 20s are for. Learn from it.

5. Everyone doesn’t like you and you definitely should not lose sleep over that. 

6. Less is almost always more. Leaving something to the imagination is a good idea. 

7. Stand up for your beliefs. Don’t ever go along with the popular opinion to impress people. 

8. If he cares, you won’t have to chase him. It’s a man’s natural instinct to chase. If you’re the 1 doing all the chasing, he’s not worth it. 

9. Look after your skin! High SPFs and skin care routines are where it’s at. You’ll be glad of it later. 

10. Duck face poses are ridiculous and extremely unattractive. 

11. Taking photos is so important. Your memory will fade and photos serve as great memories. 

12. Wear comfortable heels or put flats in your bag. Don’t walk home in your bare feet. 

13. Your gut instinct is almost always right! 

14. Travelling is a good way to spend your money. Do it your way though, because there are so many travel “know-it-alls”. Whether it’s a week at a time in 5 star hotels or a year at a time in hostels, do what feels right to you. 

15. It’s ok to spend Saturday nights binge watching TV series rather than binge drinking but it’s also okay to go drinking and let your hair down with friends too. 

16. ‘No’ is a full sentence. You don’t always have to have an excuse/reason. 

17. Pick your battles. This is a big 1 for me. Sometimes it’s easier and makes more sense to hold your tongue. 

18. Don’t compare yourself to others. Everyone is on a different journey. We all have our strengths and weaknesses. Be happy for your friend’s achievements, wish people who are no longer in your life happiness and be grateful for what you have. The grass is not always greener. 

19. Never point out your flaws to other people. They might not have noticed before you drew their attention to them.

20. This 1 leads on from the last and it’s a bit of a cliche but stop hating things about yourself. You might never be the skinniest or have the prettiest hair. So what. You have plenty of other things going for you. 

Of course, it’s not all plain sailing and if I’m being honest, I’m not 100% there with #19 & #20 but it’s definitely a work in progress. Unfortunately I don’t know everything and I still have a lot to learn so maybe in 10 years time, I’ll be sharing 30 new things I’ve learned.

Here are some things I hope to learn/do in my 30s that I haven’t quite mastered in my 20s:

1. Budgeting my money better and not being afraid to check my bank balance! (Shopping obsession, anyone?)

2. The 6 month mantra. I tend to over worry and I can be a bit of a worse case scenario kind of person. I’ll learn from this in the future, I’m sure. So I need to try & think of the mantra of asking myself if it’s something that will still be a problem in 6 months time before I freak out. 

3. Not to let my emotions or mood dictate my day.

4. Patience. Mine are definitely getting worse rather than better.  That’s enough said about that. 

5. Stop making excuses not to exercise. 

Mac Lipsticks

Anyone who knows me, knows I have a bit of a thing for lipsticks. Mac lipsticks, in particular. I’ve tried plenty of other brands but I find none are as long wearing as Mac, especially their Matte collection. I have lost a couple over the last year but at my latest count I have 23. If I’m being completely honest, I wear around 6 or 7 of those 23 regularly and 2 of those 7 on a daily basis. 


My go-to shades for daily wear are Brave and Viva Glam 2. I wear them both to work and when I’m off. They’re definitely more subtle daily shades. I’ve never finished a lipstick for two reasons. 1) because I have so many and 2) because I tend to lose them. I’m almost at the end of my Viva Glam 2. I have a second lined up and ready though. 

Brave & Viva Glam 2


My favourite shades for going out or special occasions are Ruby Woo, Rebel, Lickable, Hue and Hang Up. My Rebel is on the missing list so I’ll have to replace that. 

Hang-Up, Ruby Woo, Lickable & Hue


I rarely use the rest but as you can see I’m not going to run out of pink options any time soon! 

What’s your go-to lipstick brand?

Next up in my ‘Favourite Things’ series is blogs. There are a few I love and check in on regularly so I thought I’d share them here. 

 

Enjoy It

http://www.elisejoy.com

Elise Joy’s Blog ‘Enjoy It’ is my absolute Favourite. Elise lives in San Diego with her husband and two daughters. She owns a brand called GET TO WORK BOOK which provides tools for goal setting. You can check that out here. She has also sold many other things through the shop on her website. She used to post on her blog every single day. She doesn’t anymore but checks in with a new post every now and again. I absolutely love her posts and there’s a huge back catalogue of posts covering many things from her family life, to goal planning to DIY and homemade projects. She also has a brilliant podcast about small business and creativity, amongst other things. You can check that out here.

 

The Band Wife Blog:

http://thebandwifeblog.com

Laura Gummerman is a band wife who lives in Nashville. She recently had a baby girl and has two adorable cats. Lately she has been sharing posts about her lovely daughter Lola and her pregnancy but there’s also plenty of posts about her home life, her tour life, her style, her home and cats, cats, cats! Laura is a staff writer and project assistant for the ‘A Beautiful Mess’ blog which I will mention next. She has a really fun casual style of writing and she’s very funny. 

 

A Beautiful Mess

http://abeautifulmess.com

A Beautiful Mess is run by two sisters, Elsie & Emma.It is an entire lifestyle company. They share lots of home decor projects and craft projects as well as recipes and more. They also have a couple of photo editing apps and a couple of books. They sell lots of pretty things and you can check out their shop here. These women work hard and have turned what was once just a blog into a huge and very successful business.

 

Becky Higgins

beckyhiggins.com/blog

Becky Higgins is the creator of the  scrapbooking brand Project Life. I’m a huge fan of this memory keeping method and you can find some of my posts about it here. You can find out all about the concept and shop her products over on her website but you can also read posts about Project Life, digital scrapbooking,  “cultivating a good life and recording it” and lots more!

 

Ali Edwards

https://aliedwards.com/blog

Ali is a designer, blogger, workshop instructor and an author. My interest in her started a few years ago when I first learned of the concept of One Little Word, which I have posted about and you can check those posts out here. Since then I’ve also (kinda) taken part in her ‘A Day in The Life’ project. Ali is an avid memory keeper and her blog has lots of posts about Project Life and other creative projects.

 

My Tiny Mind

http://mytinymind.com

My Tiny Mind is something quite different from the rest of the blogs I’ve mentioned. It is a blog belonging to a middle aged, middle brow (his words, not mine) man who shares his opinion on things from Trump to his generation to local charities. He also discusses life long learning and random topics from what he calls his ‘Man Drawer’. Mostly though, he shares reviews of books and his travels which are definitely worth a read.

 

Some other new blogs, belonging to friends of mine, which are worth keeping an eye out for include:

National Steographic

Small Matters

Building Our Home

All of the pictures above where taken from the relative blogs. 

Perfume For someone who forgets to put perfume on on a daily basis, or just doesn’t because some of my immediate family members have allergies, I still own a heck of a lot of it. Different perfumes for different occasions.

My favourites are:

1. Chanel – Coco Mademoiselle.

This is my absolute favourite perfume. My cousin bought me my very first bottle as a gift for being her bridesmaid when I was 14 years old and I didn’t get another bottle until I could afford to buy it myself at about 19. It don’t come cheap but it’s worth it. I tend to only use it as a special occasion perfume so that it will last longer.

2. Vera Wang – Princess.

I love this perfume. It’s fresh, flowery & feminine. It reminds me of summer & I tend to wear it more in the summer and at weekends.

3. Jean Paul Gaultier – Classique.

Do you ever smell something and it brings up loads of memories or takes you back in time? This perfume does that for me. It reminds me of my teens and my friends. I rarely wear it these days because it actually catches my breath a bit but when I do, it takes me back.

4. Dolce & Gabanna – Light Blue.

Light blue has the same effect. It’s a perfume I’ve been wearing since my teens and I think of it as  a young person’s perfume. I love when I smell it off someone walking down the street. It’s 1 of those perfumes that lasts well so if you need something to your last your whole work day, it’s perfect!

5. Lancôme – Miracle.

To me this is a perfect day to night perfume. It’s fruity & floral. It’s the only perfume I love that I don’t actually have right now. I dropped it in a pub toilet last year and it smashed everywhere and I had a little cry (ok, not a real one!) and then I had a cocktail to numb the pain.

6. Calvin Klein – DownTown.

I never venture out and buy new perfumes so if I ever get a new perfume, it’s a gift. DownTown is relatively new to me. I got it as a Christmas present. It’s floral and woody and makes a great daytime perfume. I keep it in my handbag and wear it to work, when I remember.
What perfumes are your go to?

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I’ve decided as part of my ‘Lists’ series, I’m going to share lists of My favourite things. I love TED Talks and now I have started listening to TED Talks Audio Podcasts while I drive to and from work. I decided to make a list of some of my favourites for anyone who is new to the world of TED Talks. If you’re already a TED Talks fan, maybe this post will remind you of some of your favourites or point out some who may not have seen.

I should start off by saying, if you have no idea what I’m talking about, you should go to TED Talks for more information.

 

We Should All Be Feminists by Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie:

I absolutely love this talk. Chimamanda is a great speaker and if I’m honest, I’d probably listen to her speaking about any topic. It is refreshing to hear an opinion of an African woman who considers herself a Feminist in a world where the world Feminism is still considered a dirty word. If you don’t feel entertained and empowered after listening to this one, then maybe my list is not for you!

Check out Chimamanda’s talk here.

 

Do Schools Kill Creativity by Ken Robinson:

I think I love this talk so much because I work in adult education and I have an interest in how the education system in this country (and plenty of others, I’m sure) impacts the type of people who are not do not learn in a conventional ‘school’ way. That being said, I think anyone who has children also usually finds the talk very interesting. I would definitely recommend a listen if you are a creative type who didn’t exactly excel in school.

Check out Ken’s talk here.

 

The Fringe Benefits of Failure by J.K. Rowling:

This talk is actually a Harvard Commencement Speech that has been shared by TED Talks. Rowling talks about the benefits of failure and how reaching rock bottom shaped the successful author she is today. It’s inspiring without falling into the theme of being an over used “rags to riches” story.

Check out JK’s speech here.

 

The Danger of a Single Story by Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie:

Another talk from Chimamanda. This 1 I saw for the first time on a development Education course I took a few years ago. In this talk, she discusses the negative effects of only having 1 single story of a country, culture or person. This talk resonated with me because I think we are all guilty of at some stage believing a single story about another person or culture.

Check out Chimamanda’s talk here.

 

How to Live Before You Die by Steve Jobs:

Another Commencement Speech that has been shared by TED Talks. This time, it is Steve Jobs at Stanford University in 2005. Steve’s speech is made up of 3 stories from his life that played a part in him becoming the hugely successful co-founder of Apple. The speech has a kind of sadness to it that it didn’t originally have previous to his death in 2011. I’m sure everyone at this stage has heard the story or has seen the “Steve Jobs dropped out of college and he did ok” memes which I think paints an idealistic view of his life. He didn’t always have it easy but he knew what he wanted.

Check out Steve’s speech here.

 

What I Learned From 100 Days of Rejection by Jia Jiang:

If you are looking for something a bit short and with a bit more humour, check out Jia’s talk on rejection. We tend to fear rejection as a natural reaction and by the sounds of it, Jia was the same until 1 day he decided to seek out rejection.

Check out Jia’s talk here.

Me looking happy...

Me…looking happy! Duh!

 

I’ve decided to start a new mini series of posts that’s going to be made up of lots of different lists. I love lists. I find the idea of getting ‘to do’ lists down on paper really satisfying. I tend to like actually physically writing them down. I know this is really old school & there’s a bazillion apps to do the same job on our phones now, but I really enjoy the process of writing them down & crossing or ticking things off. I may actually write all of the lists down too.

This first list is a list of the little things that make me happy. I think we can focus waaaay too much of the physical things that make us happy and sometimes on the things we want & cant or don’t have so it’s nice to remember the little things…


Things that make me happy are…

  1. Good books that you get lost in & don’t want to put down.
  2. The smell after a well needed rainfall.
  3. Spending time with the people who make me forget that the world is sometimes an awful place.
  4. Music that triggers memories.
  5. Sunsets with a mixture of beautiful colours (particularly when I’m driving home from work – it lifts my mood).
  6. A shower on a cold day followed by clean pjs & fresh bed sheets.
  7. Family dinners.
  8. When people are polite.
  9. Waking up & realising there’s still lots of time left to sleep.
  10. Holding hands.
  11. Fallin asleep to the sound of rain.
  12. A great cup of tea.
  13. How excited my dogs get when I get home.
  14. Not setting an alarm for the morning.
  15. A smile from a stranger.
  16. Comfortable silences.
  17. TV shows binges.
  18. Taking photographs.
  19. Good hair days.
  20. Laughing until my belly hurts.

I’m sure there’s lots more so there may be another list of things that make me happy at some stage.

What makes you happy?